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Bringing Children To A Funeral: Four Ways To Make The Day Easier

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Bringing children to a funeral home can be a difficult decision, but there are ways you can create a supportive and nurturing environment that makes a wake and funeral less traumatic and more comfortable for young ones. Work with the funeral home director and use these ideas to help when planning a funeral for a loved one. Create A Children’s Area Many funeral homes have separate rooms where snacks can be served. Ask if you can reserve one of these rooms and dedicate the space to children and parents. This gives little ones a place to go away from the casket so they can be more comfortable. Set out juice boxes and kid-friendly snacks in case they get hungry, and keep a few small pillows and blankets on hand in case they need to nap. Offer Quiet Distractions Keeping children busy can give adults time to talk with friends and family, and it also gives them time to grieve away from the kids. Have crayons and coloring books, puzzles and picture books available for the little ones to stay occupied. If there is a television in the room, pay a child-friendly DVD at a low volume for an added distraction. Avoid toys and games that might encourage children to run and play, as some guests may find this in poor taste. Bring A Babysitter To The Funeral Home Bringing a babysitter to the funeral home means you can still spend time with friends and family without having to worry about your children throughout the day. This also lets you keep your children nearby to have a quick visit with distant relatives without having to spend the entire day at your side. Let other relatives and friends know that you will have a babysitter available, and ask them to let you know if their children will be in attendance. This will make it easier for you to determine if you need more than one babysitter to handle all the children at the funeral home. Take The Children Outside For A Walk Spending all day in a funeral home can be emotionally draining for adults, and it can be even more difficult for children. During an all-day wake, take turns with other adults taking a small group of little ones outside for a break and a breath of fresh air. Outside, they can speak loudly, run for a little bit and release some energy that they can’t inside the funeral home. When planning funeral services, talk to the funeral director about different arrangements you can make for children who will be present at the wake and funeral. In some cases, the funeral home may have a plan for little ones to help them get through this difficult time. For more ideas, contact a funeral home, such as Conboy-Westchester Funeral Home Inc.  ...

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Planning To Drop Several Dress Sizes Pre-Wedding? How Should You Select Your Dress?

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Many brides-to-be would like to lose a few pounds before the big day — but if you’re a determined bride who plans to drop multiple dress sizes before your wedding, you may need to put some extra thought into your dress selection. Choosing a style that’s difficult to alter could have you searching for a replacement dress (or a talented seamstress) at the last minute. Read on for some tips and tricks to selecting your bridal gown before you’ve dropped the weight.  Start looking early — even if you’re not near your goal weight For those who are planning double (or even triple) digit weight loss before walking down the aisle, trying on dresses at your current size can be discouraging. However, many bridal shops will require you to order your dress months in advance of your wedding, so waiting until you’ve hit a weight that makes you feel comfortable could significantly limit your dress selection or require you to pay a premium for last-minute shipping. Even if you’d like to wait to try on dresses, you may want to contact a few local bridal shops, such as Bridal Elegance, to inquire about scheduling to ensure you don’t miss any critical deadlines. Select a style that can withstand multiple alterations By choosing a style of dress that can be altered easily, you’ll ensure you’re covered whether you lose a little or a lot of weight. Ultra-fitted styles or those made from solid satin can be difficult to alter in a way that isn’t visible from certain angles, and paying to alter these tricky fabrics can be pricey. Choosing a dress with a looser skirt (like a princess style) or one with a gauzy overlay can allow your seamstress to make multiple alterations without significantly changing the style or shape of your dress. These styles also tend to accentuate the areas you may want to highlight, like your bust or shoulders. Schedule several fittings beginning months before your wedding Having fittings scheduled at regular intervals beginning several months before your wedding will not only ensure that your seamstress has ample time to make needed alterations, but it can help give you the accountability you need to stick to your diet and exercise regimen. Knowing you’ll be expected to try on a smaller wedding dress every few weeks leading up to your wedding should keep you on track and ensure you’ll be able to meet your...

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Tips Every First-Time Foster Parent Should Know

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If you’ve been considering taking in a foster child, it can be an exciting prospect, yet intimidating at the same time. This is a whole new adventure for you, but it’s also a lot of upheaval for any child in the foster care system. Whether you’re still in the deciding stage or you’re ready to take in your first child, there are a few key things you should be aware of. Here’s a look at a few tips every new foster parent should know. You Need Good Communication Skills Foster parenting isn’t for those people who are afraid to speak up or rock the boat. It requires someone who is willing to communicate effectively and persuasively. As a foster parent, you’ll have to deal with a lot of people, including school officials, doctors, therapists, social workers, court personnel and sometimes the birth family. Additionally, and most importantly, you’ll need to be able to communicate with the child. Remember that kids in foster care often come from challenging situations and may have a history of abandonment, abuse or other problems. This means that they aren’t likely to come into your house and open up to you right away. It’s going to take time. You need to be able to communicate with your foster child gently while still ensuring that he or she understands the rules of the house. Building a strong relationship with open communication is the best way to help ensure success in your foster placement. If you need help refining your communication skills, talk with your local foster agency about workshops and classes that might help. You Need to Be Up for the Challenge Because of the typically volatile environments that kids in the foster care system come from, it’s important that you’re prepared for any potential challenges that are ahead. Sometimes, kids lash out with difficult behaviors because they don’t know how else to deal with the whirlwind of emotions that they’re faced with after everything changes. You need to be prepared to tackle those challenges head-on, showing the child that you are there for him or her while also reinforcing proper behaviors. It often also means learning a whole new way of parenting, because many states don’t permit the use of any discipline that causes physical discomfort for foster kids. This is because kids in the foster system frequently come from living environments of abuse or neglect, so those types of punishment often trigger negative memories. Welcoming foster children into your home can be a rewarding experience, but only if you are fully prepared for what’s ahead. With these tips, you can be better prepared for the challenges that you may face so that you can help your foster child adapt safely and comfortably. For more information, contact companies like Braley & Thompson...

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Unplanned Pregnancy: 3 Ways That Today’s Adoptions Help Birth Mothers Feel In Control Of Their Child’s Placement

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When you discover you have an unplanned pregnancy, it may cause you to feel as if you have lost control of your life. Your body is no longer yours alone, you may have to put important plans on hold indefinitely, or you’re already struggling to raise a family. The good news is that today’s adoption landscape gives you back control of your situation. You are in charge of the outcomes as much as you wish to be. Here are 3 ways: You can choose private adoption. Although state adoption laws vary, there are normally two types of adoptions. Private adoptions are conducted by an adoption agency or an adoption attorney. Adoptions handled by your state’s representatives, such as its department of child welfare, are the second kind of adoption. Depending on your circumstances, you should be free to choose a private adoption as long as you are healthy and not abusing drugs or alcohol during the pregnancy. A private adoption means that you, not a judge or a social worker, decides how your adoption will be handled, giving you back control of your future. You can have open or closed adoptions. Again, laws vary from state to state, but in private adoptions, you can create the adoption scenario you wish to see. Many birth mothers desire to maintain contact with their children after they place them for adoption. Other mothers want a clean break and no contact for their own and the child’s benefit. Whichever path you choose for your own adopted child, the control is in your hands. You may normally stipulate that you be allowed to visit your child periodically and receive updates. Some birth and adoptive parents end up in regular contact texting and sharing videos. You can receive correspondence-only updates a few times a year, handled through the birth agency or adoption attorney–if you wish to retain your anonymity. This option gives you the reassurance that your child is happy and well without a more intimate relationship. Or you can choose to have a completely closed adoption where neither the birth mother or the adoptive family have any contact after the adoption is finalized. Some laws do allow the adoptive child to have access to records in certain circumstances, but your adoption attorney or agency will help you formulate a plan that accommodates the legal requirements. You may choose the adoptive family. You have control over who adopts your baby. For a private adoption, you will be asked about the qualities you wish your child’s new parents to have. Income, occupation, and religious beliefs may all be taken into account. Many agencies and adoption lawyers have books that show pictures and details about families who wish to adopt a newborn baby. You can select families to meet with in person before you finalize a choice. When you are able to meet with the potential adoptive parents before selecting a family to raise your baby, it gives you the reassurance that the child you carry will be loved and raised by good people that you trust. Birth mothers are heroes who turn their mistakes into blessings for other families. Today’s adoptions reflect that sentiment and put control back in the birth mother’s hands. For more information, visit http://www.achildsdream.org or a similar...

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